“Who we are is the process of learning to align thoughts, words and actions with our highest intentions [1].”
The “self-critic” does it best, but imprisons us and inhibits change. Self-compassion is the antidote. Self-Compassion allows us to move forward in alignment with purpose and our values. Self-Compassion, not criticism, is the catalyst for change.
The three components of self-compassion
- Emotional mindfulness (grow curious about the depth of your emotional experience)
- Connection with Collective (shared human experience)
- True Kindness & Big Picture Perspective (the voice that points you back in the direction of what you really want)
Practice: Write a letter to yourself expressing compassion to yourself. Try to include all three components. Notice when your self-critic is talking. Invite your self-compassion voice to join the dialogue.
Reference:
[1] Kelly McGonigal, Neuroscience of Change